The Pursuit of Excellence Practical steps toward happiness

28May/120

Welcome your Demons

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(Don’t) let the hate flow through you

As Buddha sat meditating under the Bodhi tree for his final push toward Enlightenment, the demon Mara launched a fierce attempt to prevent him from arriving.

The demon assailed him with visions of beautiful women but each time Buddha simply responded, “I see you, Mara,” and remained focused on his purpose.  Finally, Mara retreated in defeat.

Mara represents all of those behaviours that keep us from realizing our excellence.  In this story he’s a symbol for destructive emotions like craving, greed, anger, and boredom.

We can respond to Mara in three ways.  The first is to give in: act with hatred or become attached to material possessions.  Try it and you will find that this strategy leads only to unhappiness.

The second is to fight Mara, which is what I’ve been doing for years, unsuccessfully.  I’ve tried to repress my anger, pull myself out of sadness by my bootstraps, or even ignore these emotions when they come. I wanted to take the shortcut to higher consciousness. But the battle cannot be won this way.

Mara must be faced with acceptance.  Welcome Mara and you take away his power.

I first heard the Mara story in Tara Brach’s book, Radical Acceptance, a great read for those who seek greater peace.  Even after the Buddha reached Enlightenment, she writes, the demon continued to test him.

“Instead of driving him away, however, the Buddha would calmly acknowledge the demon’s presence saying, “I see you, Mara.”  He would then invite him for tea and serve him as an honored guest… Mara would stay for awhile and then go, but throughout, the Buddha remained free and undisturbed.”

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Just ignore those watery tarts

We cannot avoid negative emotions, but when we let go of our resistance to them and accept them as a part of life, we can be free of them.  This may seem counterintuitive, but it works.  At times I move through my acting angry, fearful, or sad without being aware of it.  But when I do finally key in—when I acknowledge Mara, those emotions start to lose their power over me.

I will leave you with a mantra that helps when I struggle with negative emotions:

“I welcome the opportunity (even if painful) that my minute to minute experience offers me to become aware of the addictions I must reprogram to be liberated from my robot-like emotional patterns.” – The Twelve Pathways to Higher Consciousness by Ken Keyes Jr.

I hope it also brings you peace.


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