The Pursuit of Excellence Practical steps toward happiness

21Nov/120

The Waiting Place

I hate waiting. I’d rather be doing.

When I was a kid I used to delay trips to the bathroom because it meant putting ‘fun’ on hold. As an adult I tend to jam my schedule so tight I can’t find time to eat. Sitting idle is a sin, says the world outside.

Line-ups, traffic. Waiting for an important call. These are annoying, but there’s a far more crushing brand of waiting: getting stuck. Life stuck.

I want to finish my book, launch my business, finally learn to play Hotel California on guitar. But my last chapter was flat; my business model is flawed; my fingers won’t cooperate.

Challenges visited each of my projects all at once this past summer, landing on top of a layer of family and personal worries, and I got stuck. I fell into a funk.

For weeks I made little progress on my goals. I forced myself to keep going and beat myself up when I couldn’t find the strength. The funk worsened. I had no choice but to take a vacation and to fire my inner slave-driver (he still loiters in the background.)

“Difficulties in your life do not come to destroy you, but to help you realize your hidden potential and power.” – Dr. A.P.J. Abdul Kalam

In this unwanted rest period I learned there is value in getting stuck.

Ever notice that when waiting at a red light you’re more aware of your surroundings than when driving?

Can’t stop the funk

Standing still lets us look around. When we look around we can see what’s working and what is not in our lives. In this mindful place we can see opportunities and truths we would normally miss.

In my “waiting place” I learned to ask for help. I learned to stop forcing. And I learned to be kinder to myself. These lessons helped move my projects back on track.

“Why do you want to shut out of your life any uneasiness, any miseries, or any depressions? For after all, you do not know what work these conditions are doing inside you.” – Rainer Maria Rilke

Challenges will come, and some will stop you in your tracks. You can thrash around in this waiting place or you can treat it as a welcomed chance to look around.

Have you been stuck? Let me hear your story in the comments section below.


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